How relationships affect your health
Relationships that we choose to engage in, whether it's a life partner, a platonic relationship or a business partner and what it is that attracts us to those people in the first place have been poorly understood. Yet we all know how when things are not working in a relationship how it can affect our whole life including our sleep, eating, stress levels, and choices.
Fundamentally, it is our hormones that make that difference. Our hormones have very essential roles in how they support our various different systems and also have the biggest influence in our thinking and feeling, our choices and our behaviours.
Our hormones dictate when we are in flow, and excited about doing life, and also when life falls apart, everything is a disaster and we are not doing very well in various aspects of life. That might be in personal health, professional performance or any other outcome where you feel you’re failing. Your unique hormonal balance is going to dictate what that outer flow and stress is going to look like and therefore how others are going to experience you, dictating whether they want to get closer to you or create distance from you.
When we are attracted to someone most often it's because they are in a state of balance, or at least we perhaps know something of them when they have been stressed and compromised but we have seen enough to know who they are in their potential, which attracts us to that individual for desirable reasons.
We have oxytocin, prolactin, serotonin, vasopressin, dopamine, and adrenaline as 6 main hormones.
There are many more that work together but what is really important is that we are clear on which ones make the biggest difference for each one of us as individuals.
These different hormones dictate our rhythms and how we do life.
These different hormones dictate your level of introversion and extroversion, and level of reactivity or stability. How reactive do you believe you are in life? Is there a hypersensitivity to feedback and to the need to be changing and creating and doing. Is there a drive to improve things to create more structure and to take on information in order to be more efficient. When thinking about your life partner, business partner or work colleagues, do they bring that go-getter spontaneity and pivot element that you work so well with, do they bring that stability element that just brings you back to being grounded and staying in the groove that you are needing to be in for success. Most importantly, what do you bring?
Being able to see who you are in the world and give yourself permission for it aligns you with your biology and therefore enables it to move further into health and away from dis-ease. This is the mind-body link, and is called psycho-neuro-immuno-endocronology by those in the scientific medical world.
Ultimately there is no perfect relationship in the same way as you cannot be perfect but if you invest in it to be as healthy and rewarding as possible you will see the health in yourself as well because as the saying goes it takes 2 to tango.
If you want to find out more about yourself or the biology of your relationships to a life partner or a business partner to maximise on your success personally or professionally please do contact me here.